I don’t remember much from chemistry class. The only thing I really liked was when the teacher made things ignite, blow up, or created havoc with acids. I knew it was going to be a good class when he started to put on his protective gear. It is astounding what can happen when you mix the wrong chemicals – Kabooom.My oldest brother got into chemistry with one of his buddies. One day he summoned us to the kitchen in the downstairs apartment to give us a demonstration. He had concocted flash powder, the stuff they first used for flash photography. He had a little pile on a board on the counter and small can full sitting about a foot to the side. He lit off the small pile with marvelous results and earned some serious applause. Pleased he poured a second pile double the size of the first one onto the board. It went off in spectacular fashion almost blinding us, and it ignited the can, which spewed a flame upwards like rocket engine on a test stand and burned a serious hole into the ceiling. We thought it was glorious as we stood back up in the smoked filled room, but we also knew it spelled serious trouble. And yes, my Dad didn’t not see any humor in it at all. (My oldest brother never did become a chemist.)Chemistry is also important in love, romance, and marriage. There are some things that don’t mix, that are volatile, that will burn you, are not safe. Just like it is unwise to light a match around gasoline fumes so it is unwise to ignore certain things when it comes romance and marriage. You and I have to know what will not mix. A good marriage, a happy romance, a healthy relationship does not mix well with:
- Any addiction, whether it be alcohol, drugs, gambling, porn, sex, video games, or whatever. Proverbs 23:29-35
- Obsessions and worry. Matthew 6:25-34
- Violence of any kind. Proverbs 3:31
- A temper. Proverbs 22:24-25
- Gossip. Proverbs 20:19
- Lying, deception, not being truthful. Proverbs 6:16-19
- Infidelity. Proverbs 6:24, 22:14
- Foolishness. Proverbs 13:20
- The love of money, greed. Luke 12:15, 1 Timothy 6:9-10
- Hurtful words. Proverbs 16:27, 18:8
- Evil. Proverbs 6:16-19
- Laziness. Proverbs 18:9,19:15
- Pride and arrogance. Proverbs 8:13, 11:2, 16:18
- Bitterness. Ephesians 4:31, Hebrews 12:15
- Jealousy. Proverbs 27:4
- Being a control freak. 1 John 4:18
- Self-centeredness. 2 Timothy 3:1-5
- Bad company. 1 Corinthians 15:33
- Lack of character and integrity. Proverbs 10:9, 20:7
- Not taking responsibility, always blaming others. Genesis 3:8-13
- Stubbornness. Zechariah 7:11
- Rudeness. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
- Negativity. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
- Self-pity. 1 Corinthians 10:10, Exodus 17:3
- No sense of humor, the inability to laugh at yourself. Proverbs 17:22
Do you realize all of the above and more are addressed in the Word of God, the Bible? If you are looking for great relationship chemistry maybe it is time to pay attention to what it warns us against and advises us to engage in and look for. The items in the list above are all volatile; they will blow up, burn you, hurt you, and be a source of heartache and pain. Don’t let the feeling of love blind you to them if you are still in the choosing stage. Work hard at none of them being true about yourself, you will choose better if these are important to you to avoid.Maybe you are saying, “I wish I would have thought about these before I tied the knot.” It certainly is not too late for you to address these personally, make sure that what you bring to your marriage is neither explosive nor destructive. If needed seek help now.To God be all glory, love you Pastor HansP.S. If you are in an unsafe relationship please get out and seek safety.